Admit it. You’ve been looking for that once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to show everyone the great man you know you are. Well, congratulations. That moment is here.

You are a parent (or you’re about to become one). A father! A sober dad.

If the word sober led you to pick up this book, you are on the right track. You know you want to be a sober dad. Physically sober. Emotionally sober. Here’s your guide to giving up being a “guy” and to becoming a better man, so that you become a better dad.

You aren’t going to get everything right. Everything isn’t going to be perfect. Perfectly imperfect is okay. Your role as a dad will last a lifetime. You’ll soon see that perfection isn’t the point. Showing up, being present, getting up, and trying again with your eyes wide open and crystal clear—that’s what counts. That’s what separates the guys from the sober dads. Those are the things your kids will remember.

“Michael Graubart” is a long-time sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous, has been a member of Al-Anon for decades, and attends Overeaters Anonymous meetings as well. As he says, “If it moves, I’m obsessed with it, and if it stands still, I’m addicted to it.” A New York Times bestselling author, Michael is married and the father of four children. He writes under a pseudonym to maintain his anonymity and speak frankly about his experiences in Twelve Step recovery.